Dealing With Anger, Resistance And Pessimism

 

personal healing tools….it reminds me of something a friend once said about 10 years ago:  “Be the Observer” – in everything.  …  i was particularly interested in his discussion at the end about movies and characters in them and how they grow/awaken through struggle….i see the truth in that – in our experience here – and like many of us though we don’t want – we don’t consent – to being “characters” in a movie.  anyway – i found his metaphor interesting…

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Lots of news (fear) about this corona virus. Here’s some info I came across…

 

i know – shouldn’t be surprised.  but still am.  why do we tell our children monster’s aren’t real – when in reality here, they are.  clean up time.

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link to the patent

 

 

Crystal Geyser bottled water maker admits dumping arsenic in Californian water

 

they should be put out of business…

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Local authorities who sampled local water quality found arsenic concentrations above hazardous waste limit

On Holding Space for others

 

editor victoria’s comment ~ thank you to sister linea for putting this one up on her page.  i am politely stealing it and using it here.  lol  anyone who comes here regularly knows how much i align with this – and how batshit crazy i can go within when others do this.  as i continue to say – love asks “what do you need?”  it doesn’t give unasked for advice or pretend to know your needs much less who you really are.  enough assuming.  let us ask – when someone is struggling – what do you need?  

repeat after me.  let us ask when someone is struggling – what do you need? then hold space for them.  if you can.  if you can’t, say so…  recently when i was sharing my grief over the passing of our grandpa don, i was told to be strong.  i stopped – and said “no.”  lol  not to be arrogant – but i was not about to be strong to make someone else comfortable.  i ain’t always strong and in that moment i wasn’t.  no one is – especially when in grief.  i was also told to focus on the good times – as though i wasn’t already doing that.  and ya know what? as i said – i am not ready to do that.  i am hurting.  if my pain is too uncomfortable for you, then we need not communicate any more.  i would rather mourn alone than be around fake and that is what such behavior is – fake.  

life is painful here at times and traumatizing.  we can make that easier by holding space and just being with someone – silently – in their pain.  and at least if we don’t feel we can do that, be honest and say so.  (and yes there are exceptions to this – been there done that – seen it in myself – seen it in others)…

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Copied from friend. This is good and true.
….. I like to call it “false fake Ego light.”
Here goes:

Unpopular opinion:
We’re not usually encountering people who are struggling, just so we can call them “lower vibrational” and feed our egos as a “high vibe lightworker” while we ostracize them.

If we are called to help others, and hold space, l we’re going to have to learn how to actually “hold space”.

If we can’t or aren’t willing to learn how to do that, then we should get the fuck out of the game and stop compounding traumas.

People have enough issues to work out without our “higher vibrational” selves “nicely” inferring they’re a piece of shit.

I’m aware there are extreme situations that are the exception. I’ve lived a few of them. But most of the time it’s fake people being pussies and projecting.

Love y’all…♥️🔥🕉️

Sometimes more than others…

P.S. If you want or need help, reach out. For real. I got you 🤘

P.P.S. UPDATE I changed the you and you’re to us and we because I’ve done this myself and had to be called out on it before I realized the harm I was causing. A new friend reminded me of that, by holding space and using discourse, and I’m grateful for his perspective.

Copied from Steve, friend of Tina Kaczmarzewski… via Melissa Knochenhauer

How to Survive the Holiday Season Hoopla When You’re an HSP

 

editor victoria’s comment ~ i prefer to celebrate when i feeeeel aligned to do so – certainly not because of what the calendar says.  this year especially not so into all of this.  i know many of you (myself included) desire to have that song lyric be our holiday gift:  “I’ll Be Home For Christmas”….

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  1. You are not too sensitive if you are easily overwhelmed by the holiday muzak, the florescent lights, the crowds, the frenetic meaningless pace, and the smell of stale popcorn at the shopping mall.
  2.  You are not a failure as a human being if your siblings went to Stanford and are all doctors and have two and a half kids and you are still wondering what to do when you grow up because you took a detour into drug treatment and psychotherapy because your soft heart and gentle spirit needed to heal.
  3.  You are not lacking in empathy if you are frustrated and irritated, well, okay, enraged by society’s focus on the status of having more and more stuff, the bigger the better, while others are oblivious to the impact of said stuff.
  4.  You are not socially inept or paranoid if you have to abruptly leave a gathering of people who seem happy and charming and delightful but who make your stomach ache, because unbeknownst to your conscious mind, they are really miserable.
  5.  You are not an arrogant know-it-all if you choose to wrap the kids’ gifts in newspaper, or if you give your precocious nieces homemade light switch plates instead of Barbie dolls, or if you choose funding a homeless family over yet another plastic giraffe for your adorable nephew.
  6.  You are not a bad daughter/son if you have mixed feelings about attending the family event, and if you make a plan to leave early when your relatives start to berate you about your political or religious beliefs — or about why you didn’t go to Harvard when you had so much potential.
  7.  You are not being inauthentic if you consciously avoid certain topics with family members who you know will react with anger or misunderstanding to your attempt to explain, say, your logical reasons for changing your college major for the fifth time.
  8.  You are not too persnickety if you start your own holiday rituals and don’t allow your toddler to watch reality TV, use your iPad, or learn how to operate a cell phone.
  9.  You are not a failure as a parent if your holiday meal is a flop, if your kids throw their biggest tantrums just when the grandparents arrive, if you still haven’t gotten your hair cut or trained your dog not to beg for food.
  10.  You are not an oddball if you question the traditions, religion, or the obsession with television that organizes your family gatherings. Well, maybe you are an oddball in that regard, but there are times when oddballs are needed! This might be one of those times.
  11.  You are not too dramatic if you cry when your relatives tease you, well, okay, bully you, because you are following yet another career path, you have stopped straightening your hair, and you are still single.
  12.  You are not too intense if you can’t totally enjoy the holiday because people around the globe are suffering, the ice caps are melting, and you are distracted by your need to find and manifest your purpose on the planet.
  13.  You are not too idealistic if you believe that it is still possible for a transformation to occur where the people of the world embrace compassion over fear.
  14.  You are not alone if you dread the stresses of the holiday season and look forward to the end of said season. And, you are not wrong if you understand the following to be true: You are successfully sensitive, effervescently empathetic, indescribably intense, awesomely authentic, prudently persnickety, illustriously idealistic, and resplendently rainforest-minded. 

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Two teen boys become the first ever to contract meningitis from chickenpox vaccine: Live virus reactivated over a DECADE after they received the shot, doctors claim

 

editor victoria’s comment ~ “reactivate” eh?  as though it is programmed to go off?  (several years ago i began to have that feeling – that certain adjuvants in vaccines in particular viruses would lie dormant only to reactivate at a later date).  

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SOURCE:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-7731525/Two-teen-boys-meningitis-chickenpox-shot.html

 

  • Both boys received the two recommended doses of the varicella, or chickenpox, vaccine as children 
  • In rare cases in immunocompromised patients, the live virus used in the shot can reactivate and can causes infections including shingles and meningitis
  • One of the boys was immuncompromised with a history of leukemia while the other was otherwise healthy 
  • They were treated with acyclovir, an antiviral drug that treats chickenpox, shingles and cold scores