Like Wendy said in St. Elmo’s Fire, sometimes there’s nothing like a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. Well, that’s more or less what she said. Been years since I partook.
Anyone noticing being out in public has become more painful? The lights, especially? I may need to wear sunglasses. And anyone in my personal space these days feels like a huge violation. Tonight I was so grumpy and exhausted at the store, some guy came right up behind me, something around him smelled like onions that made my head and stomach swirl, so I gave him a frown and said, “Jesus, can you just back away, thank you”. I’m like HELLO PERSONAL SPACE.
I’m also in no space to recycle anymore. I used to clean things out, separate, blah blah blah. Today? It goes in the trash. I also have no desire to keep things neat and tidy and organized in my cupboards. For example, it was pointed out to me that there are 3 jars of nuts and who knows how many mason jars of round crackers. I know I have several bags of tummy soothers in the cupboard, opened, thrown in there haphazardly. I know my vitamin/homeopathic remedy cabinet is a MESS. I. do. not. care. I will, however, clean/disinfect my refrigerator on the inside, clean/sterilize the bathroom, including the floor, vacuum, and keep my plants watered. Spray my homemade peppermint room spray throughout the house. But everything else? Do not care. I threw out what was once grapes. I think. Nowhere does this “do not care” show up more than inside my closet. 😳😂
An interesting end-game marker for me. My store receipt. The 7/11 has been a reminder for me over the last few years – and it has returned again. My total (outrageous amount as always) was 117. Even. Then I return home, see a video below that happens to be 1:17. You know, these things don’t do what they once did. I’m kind of like “whatev’s” on it all. You know?
Yeah, I know most of you do.
Here are today’s “whatev’s”.
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Victoria
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It’s about fucking time. This should be in every country.
Calls grow for suicides linked to domestic abuse to be treated as potential homicides
Earlier this week, the Guardian revealed it was likely that the number of suicides linked to domestic abuse were being vastly underreported in England and Wales, with up to 1,500 victims each year.
Official figures collated by the National Police Chiefs’ Council put that figure at 98 last year – but it still exceeded the number of intimate partner homicides for the second year running.
The campaigner Karen Ingala Smith said: “That we don’t even know how many women taken their lives because of men’s violence is to our society’s shame and reflects how little women’s lives matter. Every woman who ends her own life will have taken many other steps to try to end the abuse before she reaches that point. We need to stop letting women down and make sure there are adequate routes to safety.”
I saw this – loved it – refined it to make it my own – giving credit to this wonderful woman who is doing so much good for people healing from trauma’s. The top 10 things not to say to the survivors.
You’re stuck in your victim modality. (Dismissing/minimizing the experience)
Was it really as bad as you think? (Gaslighting)
You’re being too sensitive. You need to change your thinking. (Pathologizing normal trauma response)
What did you do to attract this? (Blaming/implying victim responsibility)
Feelings aren’t facts. Let’s reframe the thought. (Over-reliance on cognitive techniques)
Sit with the discomfort. Push through it. (Forcing exposure or emotional overload)
Everything happens for a reason. (Toxic positivity)
Just breathe through it. Have you tried meditation? (Ignoring the Nervous System and Somatic experience)
It is what it is. You have to work with the system as designed. (Dismissing system/institutional harm)
You have trust issues. You need to work on your attachment wounds. (Using therapeutic jargon to avoid accountability)
What to say? Here’s what works for me:
What do you need?
I’m here for you.
I’m so sorry the systems failed you. Can I help you with that?
Sometimes people are just abusive and arrogant. I’m so sorry you had this experience.
yeah we’ll see…….
Forgot to add torus field
This was good news:
Yearsss of this. Energy weapons. Cell towers. These aren’t downloads as we were all led to believe. We should be flying by now, remembering everything and having telepathic conversations if that were the case.
We’re long past ready to “FIND OUT”
This is true. I keep saying that the needs of the nervous system are NOT CONSIDERED ONE BIT in the treatment of most mental health challenges. It’s simple. Safety. Connection. Rest. Stimulation. Done over and over and over until healing happens. This is one part of the plan that makes me cringe – unless it’s to put the psychopaths there.
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